noodles wrote:
stretching
Not yoga, not working out, just stretching? Such an odd child.
If I was this girl's friend, I would probably tell her not to move with you. Umm, Sgt D says it better than I ever could:
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3. Moving for other people never, ever, ever EVER works out
As far as moving for someone else, DO NOT EVER DO IT. And don’t ever let anyone do it for you, either. First of all, your relationship goes from 0 to 100 literally overnight. You go from seeing each other very infrequently to seeing each other 24/7 with no adjustment period, and if you don’t see the problems with that I don’t know what to tell you. Second, the person who moves is completely dependent on the other person– they usually don’t have friends or family in the area, a job, or any other support structures and that is a fucking ton of pressure to put on anyone. And if things aren’t going well, they’ll naturally get bitter and resentful at the other person for “making them move.”
Basically, you should only move somewhere if you would move there even if you were single. You have to be brutally honest with yourself on this– don’t talk yourself into thinking it’s going to be ok, because it won’t be. If you move for someone else, the relationship will inevitably fall apart, and you’ll be stuck alone in some place you don’t like. If someone moves for you, you’ll feel guilty as fuck when they’re stuck somewhere because of you and probably stay with them way longer than you should because you feel bad.
http://www.stuffyouwillhate.com/2013/03/long-distance-relationships-not-even-once/