noodles wrote:
moved back to victoria a month ago and on one hand my wife is way happier here and i'm working real hard on my thesis but on the other i feel kinda lonely because i dont really have friends here ? just a lot of acquaintances. all my close friends have moved away or developed different interests from me in the last two years and i miss montreal friends
Been having this issue with my partner moving to a new city. I have friends and a history here, and insofar as she doesn't necessarily gel with all of my friends she has been struggling to carve her own niche out in the city. I feel like you might have it easier as a guy, you can easily go out and make friends with folks of the opposite sex while women have to steer clear in order to not lead dudes on. I just try to plan things often with my friends that she does like. Lots of trivia nights at bars and board games at friends' houses. Having moved to Virginia years ago, I was in a similar situation as you. I had grad school friends, but grad students commiserating over the costs of living and going on about classwork and theory became kinda brutal and so I just picked up playing Magic: The Gathering again after ten years and made new friends that way. Just went to one of those guys' wedding a few months back and hung out with them in New Jersey all weekend playing Magic. The trick is just finding things that get you away from writing for a night and get into a social environment that isn't a bar.
RelentlessOblivion wrote:
For the first time in years I actually don't feel as though the black cloud of depression is hanging over my head. It's such a liberating feeling not to have that nagging voice in my head pulling me down constantly. I generally feel great about life. Oh and the girlfriend and I had a wonderful time Friday for our 1 year anniversary. I actually think she's part of the reason why I've finally broken free of deppression.
That's great to hear. Be careful, though. God forbid something happen to your relationship, but find emotional security in other things or you could be setting yourself up for disaster. That sounds kinda awkward, but I think you'll be better for it and be a much better person having done so and probably a better partner within your relationship.